Finding & Keeping A Life Partner
by Dov Heller, M.A.
When it comes to making the decision about choosing a life partner, no one wants to make a mistake. Yet, with a divorce rate of close to 50%, it appears that many are making serious mistakes in their approach to finding Mr./Miss. Right!
If you ask most couples who are engaged why they’re getting married, they’ll say: ‘We’re in love’; I believe this is the ..1 mistake people make when they date. Choosing a life partner should never be based on love. Though this may sound ‘not politically correct’, there’s a profound truth here.
Love is not the basis for getting married. Rather, love is the result of a good marriage. When the other ingredients are right, then the love will come. Let me say it again: ‘You can’t build a lifetime relationship on love alone’; You need a lot more!!! Here are five questions you must ask yourself if you’re serious about finding and keeping a life partner. (more…)
Charles Chen & Vicky Chow’s Marriage Registration
It was a nice warm Wednesday morning and laughter filled the parking lot of the Thean Hou Temple as a bunch of us was there to witness Charles and Vicky’s marriage registration.
And because we are who we are, the nervousness of the groom was subdued with our antics and jokes. As usual, it’ll be less words and more photos from me so here’s some photos from the morning’s events. (more…)
Relationship in RPG Language
If you’re new to the relationship scene and you’re not sure on how to navigate around it, here’s some simple explanation from the RPG or Role Playing Game point of view. I guess for those of you who’s not heard of RPG, you can therefore look at it from the MMORPG or Massively multiplayer online role-playing game point of view.
Just imagine you’re a character (any reference from here on, just think of yourself in your own gender, I’ll just use a HE as a reference). Like all new characters when you start out in an adventure, you start off with a clean sheet. With just the basic stats, no weapons at all and practically the worst Peon available in the system (depending on how you configure the character when you do the profile). (more…)
Shai & Melody’s Wedding
Couple of weeks back, Stephenie and I attended her cousin’s wedding in KL. Just sharing some photos from the blissful day.
DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON?
This is a very good article. Those who are still single may learn something from here…
Those who are already married may take it as a guideline to improve your marriage & relationship …
DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON?
During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common question. She said, ‘How do I know if I married the right person?’
I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said, ‘It depends. Is that your husband?’
In all seriousness, she answered ‘How do you know?’
Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it’s weighing on your mind.
Here’s the answer.
EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse/partner. You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their
idiosyncrasies (unconventional behavior/habit).
Falling in love with your spouse wasn’t hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn’t have to
DO anything. That’s why it’s called ‘falling’ in love… Because it’s happening TO YOU.
People in love sometimes say, ‘I was swept off my feet.’ Think about the imagery of that expression.
It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened
TO YOU.
Falling in love is easy. It’s a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria (excitement) of love fades. It’s the natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse’s
idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.
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